Children naturally practice social and emotional skills while interacting and playing with others. Below are some examples of play scenarios or interactions and the associated social or emotional skills that can be seen in these interactions. Take some time to observe a variety of play situations in your own program, both structured and unstructured. Describe the play occurring, as well as any social-emotional skills or behaviors you observe.
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Social-Emotional Skill or Behavior Observation |
Jose was reading by himself on the couch. Jillian, his usual play partner, approaches him to see if he wants to go play kickball. Jose says he doesnt feel like it, and he is acting more quiet and withdrawn than usual. Jillian asks, Are you okay? Jose notes that his Dad left that morning for deployment and he is feeling sad. Jillian says, yah, I dont like when my Dad is gone either. |
Jose: self-awareness, able to label his feelings about his fathers deployment Jillian: social awareness, notices Jose is not himself, and relationships-skills, shows empathy for Joses and offers comfort by relating to his own experiences |
Margery and Alicia are both interested in working on the new pottery project; however, there is only one pottery wheel available. At first,they begin to argue: with a slightly raised voice, Margery says well, you got to use the new sewing machine first a couple of weeks ago, so it should be my turn! Alicia responds, Well you got to pick the first three dance songs yesterday! Margery says, We both want a turn, what if we flip a coin? Alicia agrees. The girls agree that the winner of the coin toss can use the wheel for 20 minutes, during which the other can work with a new piece of clay to moisten it. Alicia wins the toss. Margery looks at the clock and tells Alicia it will be her turn to start using the wheel at 4:45. |
Margery and Alicia both show responsible decision-making and problem solving. They realize the limited material and identified the problem (we both want a turn but we have to decide who should go first) and although at first they try to problem-solve by stating it is their rightful turn to go first based on past opportunities to go first, they end up selecting the coin toss to help decide for them. The suggestion to try flipping a coin shows some self-management, moving away from yelling and toward a more productive solution.
Perhaps they realize that chance (here, flipping a coin) is one way to fairly solve the whos first dilemma. |
While Berkley is building with a set of connecting blocks, John approaches and watches her for a moment. John asks, Is that a skyscraper? Berkley responds, No, its a rocket launcher. John says, We should make a space station too. Berkley says, Okay, but make it over here (points to a space at the table) so I can finish the rocket first. |
John displays social awareness and relationship skills; he observes Berkleys play and listens to her response before adding a play idea that is connected to Berkleys space play. Berkley also listens to Johns suggestions, and shows some problem solving, by allowing his idea and hers to happen in the same space. She also show acceptance of his contributions by indicating she will help him next. |
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