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Recognizing the Warning Signs of Child Abuse and Neglect

Child abuse and neglect can have a devastating impact on children and families. Sometimes the signs are obvious, but often they are subtle. This lesson will describe some common signs and behavioral indicators of child abuse and neglect. It will also help you learn to recognize signs of abuse or neglect that happen in home settings and institutional settings. 

Objectives
  • Identify the signs and behavioral indicators of child abuse and neglect for infants and toddlers.  
  • Identify examples of behaviors that might indicate familial or institutional abuse.  
  • Observe children for signs of suspected abuse and neglect. 

Learn

Know

We all want to keep children safe. To do so, we must be able to recognize when a child is in harms way. Look for the following signs from the Child Welfare Information Gateway fact sheet on Child Abuse and Neglect (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services).

The child:

  • Shows sudden changes in behavior or changes that seem like regression (e.g., losing skills they once had or crying more).
  • Has not received help with physical or medical problems brought to the parents attention.
  • Is always watchful, as though preparing for something bad to happen.
  • Lacks adult supervision.
  • Is overly compliant, passive, or withdrawn (e.g., doesnt respond to situations that seem to warrant a response).
  • Has little reaction to parents at pick-up or drop-off.

The parent:

  • Shows little concern for the child.
  • Denies the existence ofor blames the child forthe child's problems in the program or at home.
  • Asks caregivers to use harsh physical discipline if the child misbehaves.
  • Sees the child as entirely bad, worthless, or burdensome.
  • Demands a level of physical or cognitive performance the child cannot achieve.
  • Looks primarily to the child for care, attention, and satisfaction of emotional needs.

The parent and child:

  • Rarely touch or look at each other.
  • Do not respond to each other after a separation (i.e., at pick-up or drop-off).

Its not always easy to recognize child abuse and neglect. Remember that any one of these signs by itself does not necessarily mean a child has been or is being abused or neglected. Often a pattern or combination of behaviors may lead to the suspicion that a child is experiencing abuse or neglect. Watch this video to learn about recognizing abuse and neglect.

Recognizing Signs of Abuse and Neglect

Learn about recognizing abuse and neglect.

Asking Questions and Opening the Lines of Communication

All toddlers get hurt occasionally: bumps, bruises, and scrapes can be signs of healthy exploration. Sometimes, more serious accidents happen as well, such as a child pulling a cup of hot tea down on themself or being involved in a car accident. Sometimes a medical condition causes symptoms that mimic abuse. For example, some skin conditions can leave marks that look like bruises or scars. To be most effective at protecting infants and toddlers from child abuse and neglect, we must be able to differentiate between accidents and abuse. Conversations are a powerful tool for doing so. Whenever you notice an injury or symptom in a child, complete an incident or accident report and ask about the injury. This is a standard part of caregiving and shows you take an interest in the childs well-being. Remember, you are not investigating the injury. You are simply doing what comes naturally when someone is hurt: asking what happened and how the person is doing. Here are some tips for asking questions:

  • Ask open-ended questions. You might say, Ouch. That looks like it hurts. What happened?
  • Show concern and empathy: I bet that was pretty scary for you guys. How did it happen?
  • Make sure its an okay time to talk and be prepared to get help if the family needs it. Is it okay to ask you about Geris bruises? Do you have a minute?
  • Find out if there is anything else you should know about the injuries. Im glad you took her to the doctor. Is there anything we should do to make her comfortable during the day? Or is there anything she shouldnt do?

In most cases the family member will give you a clear and accurate account of what happened. For older toddlers, you can also ask the child what happened. You might suspect child abuse or neglect if:

  • The childs answer and the adults answers do not match or if two different adults give conflicting stories about how the injury happened. For example, a child has scratches all over her face. At drop-off, her dad says she got them from a child at a birthday party. At pick-up, her mom says she got them from the family cat.
  • The story does not seem consistent with the childs developmental level. For example, you might suspect abuse if a parent says a 4-month-old climbed out of a crib and got hurt.
  • The story is not consistent with the injuries. For example, a child has burn marks on his hands that look almost like gloveshis hands were clearly submerged in something hot. His mother says the child accidentally grabbed a pot off the stove. Accidental burn injuries usually show a splatter pattern as the child pulls away.

Shaken Baby Syndrome

Shaken baby syndrome is a form of head trauma and brain injury. It can be caused by violently shaking, dropping, or throwing an infant. Most victims of shaken baby syndrome are under the age of 1, with the average age of victim being between 3 and 8 months, however it may be seen in children up to 5 years of age. When babies are shaken, their neck muscles are not strong enough to control their heads. This causes the brain to move back and forth inside the skull. The result is bleeding and bruising of the brain. The effects are even worse when the shaking ends with a sudden impact, such as when a child is slammed into a crib or against a wall. If you think the child has been shaken, seek medical attention right away.

Look for the following symptoms of shaken baby syndrome. Remember, no one sign alone is definitive evidence of abuse. Look for a combination of the following:

  • altered consciousness
  • an inability to focus the eyes or track movement
  • an inability to lift the head
  • decreased alertness
  • difficulty breathing
  • extreme irritability
  • lack of smiling or vocalizing
  • lethargy, sleepiness
  • pale or bluish skin
  • poor feeding
  • problems sucking or swallowing
  • rigidity
  • seizures
  • unequal pupil size
  • vomiting

Resources You Should Know About

Your Training & Curriculum Specialist (T&CS) or Program Manager (PM) can be valuable resources as you learn about the signs of child abuse and neglect. They are your first line of support. Go to them whenever you have questions or concerns.

Your Family Advocacy Program (FAP) can provide training and technical support around recognizing child abuse and neglect. Talk to your T&CS, PM, and FAP representative about any questions or concerns you have.

The Family Advocacy Program will provide more installation- and Service-specific training on local issues, protocols, and resources. You will also receive additional training from your T&Cs throughout your career. This 勛圖厙 course is just the beginning of your professional learning around reporting and preventing child abuse and neglect.

Scope and Mission of Family Advocacy Programs

Your FAP team can help you recognize the signs of child abuse and neglect.

You can find a quick summary of FAP roles and responsibilities as an attachment at the end of the Learn section.

See

The following are signs often associated with particular types of child abuse and neglect. However, note that these types of abuse are more typically found in combination than alone. A physically abused child, for example, is often emotionally abused as well, and a sexually abused child also may be neglected. Remember, there are two kinds of abuse to remain aware of: familial and institutional. The signs and behavioral indicators you see in children may be similar for each.

Physical Abuse

You might see a child who...

  • An infant:
    • Has bruises but is not yet standing or walking
    • Has burns that take the shape of a recognizable object (cigarette, curling iron)
    • Has burns with clear lines of demarcation and no or few splash marks, often on the buttocks or feet and heels (accidental burns usually have splash marks as the child rapidly withdraws from the heat)
    • Has human bite marks
    • Has mouth injuries from forcing a spoon or object into the mouth or forcing a bottle out of the mouth
    • Has signs of severe head injuries: decreased consciousness, seizures, vomiting, altered mental status, or an unusual cry
    • Is always watchful, passive, or immobile but intently observing as if fearful
  • A toddler or 2-year-old:
    • Shows signs listed above
    • Has bruises in unusual places
    • Has bruises that take the shape of a recognizable object (e.g., belt, hanger, electronic cord/plug)
    • Has injuries to the side of the face, cheeks, or ears
    • Shows extreme behaviors like being withdrawn or crying more than is typical
    • Shrinks at the approach of familiar adults

You might see a parent or adult who...

  • Describes how the child is doing something on purpose to make them angry (e.g., crying to get on my nerves, not listening because they know it irritates me)
  • Describes the child as evil or bad
  • Offers conflicting, unconvincing, or no explanation for the injury
  • Uses harsh physical punishment or age-inappropriate punishment

Examples of Familial Physical Abuse

  • During a diaper change for a 6-month-old baby, her caregiver notices purple, brown, and yellow bruises on her inner thighs and buttocks. The babys father says she fell from the crib with the rails up. The caregiver knows the baby does not yet pull up or climb.
  • A 2-month-old infant is dropped off in the morning. The caregiver notices right away that his eyes arent focusing and he doesnt seem like himself.

Examples of Institutional Physical Abuse

  • A staff member in the pre-toddler room has had a very hard day. Fiona, 18 months, has been crying and throwing herself on the floor for 10 minutes. Its time to get the kids outside. In frustration, the staff member grabs Fiona by the top of the arm and yanks her up to walk. She squeezes so hard that Fiona has bruises around her upper arm in the shape of a hand.
  • A child is fussy and cant stop crying. A staff member shakes the child.

Sexual Abuse

You might see a child who...

  • Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated, or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior
    • Note that knowing the anatomically correct names for body parts is not considered unusual sexual knowledge.
  • Has abdominal pain or pain urinating
  • Has genital bleeding, pain, or inflammation
  • Shows sudden changes in behavior

You might see a parent or adult who...

  • Does not respect boundaries or listen when a child tells them no
  • Expresses unusual interest in childs sexual development, such as commenting on sexual characteristics or sexualizing normal behaviors
  • Is unduly protective of the child or severely limits the child's contact with other children or adults
  • Makes up excuses to be alone with the child

Examples of Familial Sexual Abuse

  • A 2-year-old girl sits and plays with dolls. She touches the genitals and says, It hurts, but its okay.
  • An 11-month-old boy screams and tries to prevent a bowel movement. His anus is red, swollen, and has dried blood around it.
  • A 2 1/2-year-old who was previously successful in toileting skills regresses and loses skills.

Examples of Institutional Sexual Abuse

  • A staff member offers to take Jerusha inside for a diaper change. Jerusha screams, No and hides behind another staff members legs. No hurt, she screams.
  • A staff member has a favorite child. She often forces him to snuggle, sit on her lap, and be held when he does not want to be. She massages him in a sexual way.
  • A staff member blocks the view of the changing area from other staff members.

Emotional Abuse

You might see a child who...

  • Calls themselves bad
  • Cries excessively
  • Is very withdrawn or aggressive
  • Seems indifferent or unattached to the parent

You might see a parent or adult who...

  • Ignores signs the child wants affection or nurturance
  • Ignores the child or fails to provide necessary stimulation
  • Pressures the child to grow up or perform beyond their developmental level
  • Rejects the infants needs

Examples of Familial Emotional Abuse

  • A mother tells her toddler, Be good today, or I wont pick you up this afternoon.
  • A parent ignores an infants screams for a period of time and then yells at him to Shut up!

Examples of Institutional Emotional Abuse

  • A staff member calls a 2-year-old a stupid baby when he soils his pants.
  • A staff member belittles a toddler by saying, Even those babies over there can climb the slide. Whats wrong with you?

Neglect

You might see a child who...

  • Eats more than expected at school (such as due to food being withheld at home)
  • Is consistently dirty
  • Lacks clothing appropriate for the weather
  • Lacks needed medical care

You might see a parent or adult who...

  • Appears to be indifferent to the child
  • Seems apathetic or depressed
  • Behaves irrationally or in a bizarre manner
  • Does not provide adequate medical care

Examples of Familial Neglect

  • A father drops his child off every day with a diaper that clearly has not been changed since the previous afternoon. The childs diaper rash is quite severe, and parents have not responded to requests for medication.

Examples of Institutional Neglect

  • A staff member walks out of the room and leaves her co-worker out of ratio.
  • A staff member withholds food from child.
  • A staff member notices child has soiled diaper and does not change child.
  • A child cries from a crib and a staff member ignores the child.

Recognizing Child Abuse and Neglect in Child Development Centers

Caring for children can be a stressful job. There can be a fine line between inappropriate caregiving practices and child abuse. When in doubt, talk to your administrator, T&CS, or FAP. Sometimes discipline practices cross the line into maltreatment and even abuse. You will learn more about that in the next course, as well as more about positive guidance. This course focuses on clear examples of child abuse or neglect in child development centers. If you see a pattern of any of these signs or behaviors, you might suspect child abuse or neglect in your setting.

Signs of Abuse in Programs

Physical
  • A staff member hits or strikes a child.
  • A staff member uses corporal punishment like spanking or whipping.
Sexual
  • A staff member touches a child sexually or forces a child to touch the staff member sexually.
Emotional
  • A staff member publicly ridicules a child for having an accident and soiling their pants.
Neglect
  • A staff member takes an unscheduled break and leaves the program out of ratio or children unsupervised.
  • A staff member leaves children unsupervised while using dangerous equipment, or the staff member does not stop dangerous behaviors while using the equipment.
  • A staff member withholds food as punishment.
  • Staff members ignore a fight between two children, and a child is seriously injured.

Medical Conditions Mistaken for Abuse

There are several medical conditions that have symptoms that could be mistaken for abuse. It is important to be aware of these conditions, but remember you are not responsible for making medical diagnoses. If you have questions, ask the family or a community resource for support.

  • Mongolian spots: These gray spots are present at birth and often look like bruises. They are usually found on the buttocks or lower back, but they can be found anywhere. They fade slowly over time.
  • Blood or bleeding disorders: Some genetic conditions can cause severe bruising.
  • Bone deficiencies or diseases: Some bone diseases cause bones to break easily.

Cultural Practices Mistaken for Abuse

Some cultures have rituals or healing practices that might be mistaken for signs of abuse. All suspected concerns of abuse should be immediately reported. It is not your job to determine whether something you see is a cultural practice or an instance of abuse. Even though the action may be a cultural practice, it could still be considered abuse. This is why you should make a report and let CPS or FAP make that determination. This section is intended only to give you some basic information about customs that can be mistaken for child abuse. Two common examples are coining and cupping.

In coining, the chest, back, and shoulders are rubbed with a medicated ointment. Then a warmed copper coin is rubbed from the top of the shoulders down the back. Dark lines appear from the pressure and the heat. The marks, which look like long bruises, usually last for several days.

Cupping is a home remedy used to relieve pain in the legs, back, chest, abdomen, or head. A small glass cup is held upside down and a candle is lit inside it. The cup is quickly placed on the skin and a vacuum effect draws the skin up. A circular mark is left on the skin for several days. Often there is a series of cup marks along the affected area. Olympic gold medalist and swimmer Michael Phelps brought the practice to the forefront during the 2016 Olympics.

There are many other cultural practices that might be considered child abuse by state law. If you are unsure whether a mark is a sign of child abuse, it is always best to make a report. The appropriate authorities will make the determination.

Do

  • Get to know all the children in your care and their families. You cannot recognize a problem if you dont know what is typical for the child. Learn childrens patterns, temperaments, preferences, and abilities. Talk to families every day.
  • Learn all you can about child development. Some changes in a childs behavior can be startling but completely typical. For example, its not unusual for toddlers to have bruises all over their legs or on their heads. Falling is a part of learning to walk and run! Young children may be scared of certain adults as part of typical stranger anxiety. Knowing these developmental stages can help you recognize when a childs behavior goes beyond what is typically expected.
  • Develop respectful communication skills. If you have a concern, ask about it. Ask open-ended questions that focus on the childs well-being. Is it okay if I ask you about Jordans bruises? or Ive noticed that Tasha hasnt seemed like herself lately. Is everything okay? If something doesnt seem right, gather as much information as you can.
  • Keep careful records. Your daily health screening can be an important tool for identifying child abuse and neglect. Look for signs or behavioral indicators and write down what you see or hear. Write down adults explanations for injuries and childrens explanations (if applicable). If a pattern emerges, you will have ample evidence for making your report.
  • Learn about the cultures of the children you serve. Some cultures have rituals or healing practices that might be mistaken for signs of abuse. Ask your trainer or manager for information if you need help. When in doubt, make a report. Child Protective Services or the Family Advocacy Program will decide whether abuse has occurred.
  • Learn reporting procedures for your state or installation. You will learn more about this in the next lesson.

Explore

Learn more about the scenario that you read in Lesson 1. Look for the signs of abuse and neglect in the activity Infant Case Study: Part 2. Then answer the reflection questions. When you are finished, share your answers with your trainer, coach, or administrator. Then, review the suggested responses for additional reflection on Timothys story.

Apply

Refer to the factsheet in Lesson One, What is Child Abuse and Neglect? Recognizing the Signs and Symptoms, to familiarize yourself with its contents and be able to describe the signs of child abuse and neglect.

Child abuse and neglect can also have lasting effects. Download the fact sheet Long-Term Consequences of Abuse and Neglect to learn about the possible outcomes of child abuse and neglect.

Glossary

Emotional Abuse:
A pattern of behavior by adults that seriously interferes with a childs cognitive, emotional, psychological or social development
Familial Abuse and Neglect:
Abuse or neglect performed by a parent, guardian, or member of the family
Guidance and Touch Policy:
The policy your program has developed that describes the boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable discipline procedures and ways of touching children
Institutional Abuse and Neglect:
Abuse or neglect that takes place outside of the childs home and is performed by someone in a supervisory role over the child (teacher, scout leader, etc.)
Neglect:
Failure by a caregiver to provide needed, age-appropriate care although financially able to do so or offered financial or other means to do so (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 2007)
Physical Abuse:
Non-accidental trauma or injury
Sexual Abuse:
The involvement of a child in any sexual touching, depiction, or activity

Demonstrate

Which of the following scenarios might make you suspect child abuse or neglect? 
True or false? Parents are the only people who abuse or neglect children. 
A mobile infant comes in with new bruises. What should you do first? 
Which of the following is not an example or sign of institutional abuse or neglect? 
Which of the following is not a sign of familial abuse or neglect? 
References & Resources

Center for the Study of Social Policy. (2021). Strengthening Families: A Protective Factors Framework.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2018). Violence Prevention.

Military OneSource. (n.d.). Domestic Abuse, Child Abuse and Neglect.

National Institutes of Health. (2021). Shaken Baby Syndrome. U.S. National Library of Medicine.

RAINN. (2021). Warning Signs for Young Children.

Seibel, N. L., Britt, D., Gillespie, L. G., & Parlakian, R. (2006). Preventing Child Abuse and Neglect: Parent-provider Partnerships in Child Care. Zero to Three: Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families.